There is a moment in life when you ask God why you are not in love. He then answers your prayers and you fall madly in love with someone. Only that love is not as sweet as you expected .Your partner becomes stressing and abusive, does not know how to treat you right, and again 
you turn to God and ask him why your man cannot be like your friend’s boyfriend who treats her better and with a lot of care.
Only that now, God is no longer interested in your love life and so you feel all alone, scared and abused in this painful island. Your family can’t help you, your friends advice you to let him go. They remind you that the guy does not deserve you, but your heart just can’t let him go.
You meet new guys, they promise you heaven and earth, and they start caring even before you say yes to them. And you ask yourself why you can’t fall in love with such a loving and caring guy. All your friends think you are stupid to reject an angel like him for a devil but you just can t. The love you feel for your man is just too much to go away.
You now start blaming God, thinking it is a curse, you pray for his mercy and forgiveness for any wrong you have ever committed to deserve such a cruel punishment. You wakeup one morning and you ask God "why cant this love just fade away?"
By this time, you can’t concentrate on your books, work or even on your friends. You feel rejected, punished and lost at the same time. You wake up one morning and meditate about the pain you have gone through in the relationship. The suffering for loving someone more than you love yourself. Then you realize that it is true after all that the guy doesn’t deserve you.
You start feeling alive again, looking at yourself and realizing that you deserve better. Love is not so complicated at all, you just need someone whom you love and loves you in return, if not love you as much as you love him. You look around and see a million guys who are dying for just a chance to love you and from there you gather your strength and let the painful relationship fade away.
In short, letting an abusive or painful relationship end does not begin with advice from your family, friends but it starts with a decision from you. First you have to accept that the relationship is abusive, that your partner is the wrong person for you and that you deserve the best of the best. Love is not a one sided relationship but a mutual one .
you turn to God and ask him why your man cannot be like your friend’s boyfriend who treats her better and with a lot of care.Only that now, God is no longer interested in your love life and so you feel all alone, scared and abused in this painful island. Your family can’t help you, your friends advice you to let him go. They remind you that the guy does not deserve you, but your heart just can’t let him go.
You meet new guys, they promise you heaven and earth, and they start caring even before you say yes to them. And you ask yourself why you can’t fall in love with such a loving and caring guy. All your friends think you are stupid to reject an angel like him for a devil but you just can t. The love you feel for your man is just too much to go away.
You now start blaming God, thinking it is a curse, you pray for his mercy and forgiveness for any wrong you have ever committed to deserve such a cruel punishment. You wakeup one morning and you ask God "why cant this love just fade away?"
By this time, you can’t concentrate on your books, work or even on your friends. You feel rejected, punished and lost at the same time. You wake up one morning and meditate about the pain you have gone through in the relationship. The suffering for loving someone more than you love yourself. Then you realize that it is true after all that the guy doesn’t deserve you.
You start feeling alive again, looking at yourself and realizing that you deserve better. Love is not so complicated at all, you just need someone whom you love and loves you in return, if not love you as much as you love him. You look around and see a million guys who are dying for just a chance to love you and from there you gather your strength and let the painful relationship fade away.
In short, letting an abusive or painful relationship end does not begin with advice from your family, friends but it starts with a decision from you. First you have to accept that the relationship is abusive, that your partner is the wrong person for you and that you deserve the best of the best. Love is not a one sided relationship but a mutual one .
It is quite amazing how we can tolerate an abusive relationship for more than necessary. I think as one partner turns abusive the others "Visibility" or reasoning capacity is shocked into 'sleep' mode! The abused partner seems to always be the last to appreciate the unsuitability of that relationship. I think this explains the notion that love is blind. However, we should learn to have friends whom we trust and believe so that we may not take more than necessary time in a relationship heading no where. We have to make decisions early enough.
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